Purposeful Serendipities

QUESTION OF THE DAY: If I told you I loved you, would you believe me? Lol

I'm a sucker for romance, like probably all the other women on the face of the earth. Funny as I watch Cheaters on G4, I'm thinking these cheater are probably thinking the same thing. Is love a quick fix to an ugly situation or is it that warm, embracing, genuine, support system that is that through good, bad, ugly, rich, poor etc . . .

Idk.

And blog. . . I may have semi-forgot about you, but if you asked me if I love you, you could believe I would say yes and it would be true.

I watch the chick flick "Easy A" today, and fell completely in love with it of course. Like the movie said although chivalry may appear to be dead, there is someone at there for everyone and love comes in different forms shapes and sizes. . .. just be prepared to embrace and accept it when it comes knocking!!!!!


Hopeless Romantic Signing Out,
OOOO(Hugs no Kisses)
The InExperienced Expert

Often I’m waving a big flag in front of my friends’ faces letting them know that it’s ok for them to feel defeated and upset, but it’s either no crying or they have 1 opportunity for a “good cry” and then they have to keep going.

Funny how it’s so easy to give out advice, but even more hard to take your own advice, in the past few days I have found plenty life FU moments that has either given me the urge to cry or has actually made me cry in defeat. Cry of defeat, but it feels so good.

So when is it ok to shed a few tears for life adversities?!?!?!

Put out your pens and papers for my list of excused moments for the waterworks:

• Death in a family/friend/pet/hero/role model etc. . . (You cry over the death of your plant, I might have to beat you over the head with it).

• Loss of job/opportunity (You are only allowed to cry for 2 minutes for this one, because after your cry you will busy looking for ways to win and achieve better opportunities.

• Broken heart (I hate crying over an asshole or jerk, but guys are con-artist with the way they manipulate girls and their hearts [Girls are capable of this as well]. I came across a quote the other day stating that “women may fake orgasms, but men can fake a whole relationship!” Crying over a love is allowed because I would be mad to that I was deceived and I wasted time or loss a good catch over some dumb situation. Then again all is fair in love and basketball right?

• Severe wounds. Pain isn’t always love, if it hurts extremely cry for 1 minute then get over and take yourself to a hospital because tears does not heal anything.

** CELEBRATIONS ARE ALWAYS ALLOWED WATERWORKS, BECAUSE JOYOUS OCCASIONS SHOULD ALWAYS BE CELEBRATED! IF YOU GET THE URGE TO TEAR UP LET IT FLOW.

** HEALTHY PEOPLE CRY!!! UNHEALTHY PEOPLE PUT UP A FRONT!



Currently Crying LEAVE ME ALONE,

(OOOO, Hugs No Kisses)

The InExperienced Expert

What is up with finger happy people playing and raking their germ infested fingers in your locks whether they are real or fake?!?!?!? WTFFFF and a big F&*K Y@ to the touchy feely individual!

I have to guess their parents never taught them the etiquette of looking, but not touching. Often I find myself at work or at a social event, where a stranger or an associate may comment on my biweekly wig, weave, or maybe just my own hair, but yet they not only have to comment but they have to touch and feel the hair. I’m sorry what?!?!??! Like Hello ASSHOLE what are you going to do when my wig gets caught on your ring or for whatever reason remains in your hands rather than my head?!?!?

I’m the type of person who doesn’t like being touched regardless, so I could do without the extra feels of my “fa-real” (fake or real) hair.

Maybe it’s necessary to create buttons that people should wear to warn people you could look, but don’t touch. (DING!. . . I love technology!)

Browse below for my PSA buttons for the touchy happy assholes in the world. Purchase @ your own risk. (Insert Evil Laugh here)










Currently hiding my hair!!!

OOOO (No Kisses),

The InExperienced Expert

I love shopping, and I love a good buy. I love cute outfits, but I won’t be the one buying an atrocious outfit just because it graced the cover of vogue or went down the runway of Fashion Week in NYC. Give me a break, times are hard and we are in the middle of a recession. My favorite buys are A) Off the clearance rack or a good BOGO or B) Rainbows/Mandees/Forever 21/Charlotte Russe/LoveCulture etc . . C) Better yet the Internet.

The internet can you get you the best of the best without leaving your doorsteps. From premium brands to premium bootlegs. You do however have to be careful of illegitimate sites, hackers, sharing your information with 3rd party clients, or just overall leaving your identity opened to WHOLE WIDE WORD!!!

In this post, I decided to share the world of Sample Sale site online. This gives you the best of the bourgeoisie with pockets of the street vendor. If you know anything about sample sales you have to get there early to get the best finds, but with the perks of the internet you get to do it from the comfort of your own home without having to hit anyone over the head or to plan anything methodical to get the item you desire.

Here are exclusive invites (IT’S INVITE ONLY SO CLICK THE LINK) to a few sample sites that I shop from often:

• HauteLook

• Rue La La

• Ideeli

• Gilt Groupe

• Beyond the Rack

• Editor's Closet


Shop ‘Til You Drop,

OOOO (Hugs No Kisses)

The InExperienced Expert

This weekend I had the pleasure of attending a wedding, and I love getting dressed up so of course I went to town with a dress to wear and all the accessories. I guess its cultural differences because I looked like I was going to my prom and everyone else looked like they were going to a Sunday mass. I guess it’s a little different because in my family it’s important to get all dressed up for pics and to be up to par with the elegance of the ceremony.

Weddings are magical because you get to see family members you never typically get to see in a style and grace that you don’t get to see so often. My favorite parts are the words shared whether they are vows or just speeches of encouragement and support from the people that know the bride and the groom best.

Since 2010, I have seen a variety of weddings from Christian, BBQ/Pool Party Reception, 5 minute ceremony etc . . . the common factor of these weddings is they all end with the phrase “I DO”.

Do you promise to love and cherish her/him, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, and forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her/him, for so long as you both shall live? "I do."


Do you together promise in the presence of your friends and family that you will at all times and in all circumstances, conduct yourselves toward one another as becomes Husband and Wife? "We do."


Do you together promise you will love, cherish and respect one another throughout the years? "We do."



Sound off: What’s your favorite part of weddings? Experience of wedding? Do you think we’re far from attending Virtual Weddings on the Computers?


Currently planning my fedding (Fake Wedding),

OOOO (Hugs No Kisses)

The Inexperienced Expert

I love a good headline. Today I came across one which read, “Sully who? JetBlue flight attendant Steven Slater becomes hero to wage earners everywhere” on the Ny Daily News Website. The article is about a fed-up flight attendant who cursed out a plane full of people after being disrespected and slid down the emergency slide of the plane with a beer in his hands, as he stood up for himself in maybe the most controversial way possible. It’s something that people often wish they could, even almost visualizing the scene, and practicing the speech they would say if they had that opportunity.

Myself included I used to have a manager who would get mad and throw things around rather than ask employees to fix shelves to a specific standard. Often I wanted to play dodgeball with her, catch some of the items and them peg her with them as I screamed “How do you like them apples?!?!”

Not a fan of violence, but sound off on some of your Hero Work Stories, where you stood up for someone in the office or stood up for yourself or your beliefs in some way.

Sucks when you’re cruising in your hoopty or dream car, and then all of sudden you hear a sound and bumps like your ride is no longer a smooth ride. As you’re driving a long through the bumps, thumping along hoping no one notices and hoping you don’t spin out or anything. You then begin to think of all of the things you needed to do to prevent the flat tire. The maintenance check up that you scheduled but didn’t go. The check engine light on that you saw but you ignored, and the sound tracks of your broken down car that you bopped your head to rather than listened closely to figure out what needs to be repaired first.


As you wait on the side of the road lookin’ like a three-legged sucker, you begin to get your tools out. Take out the jack, the tire iron, the spare. You begin to go to work. Jacking up the car to look at the damage, unloosening the lugs to prepare to take the tire off, and prepping the spare to put it back on your car to continue on your journey,

The title of my blog is Purposeful Serendipities for a reason. While looking up Flat Tire to help prepare for this particular post I came across the Edmund’s Guide to Changing a Flat Tire which stated, “Changing a flat tire is not a very pleasant experience. It seems like your car purposely tries to get a flat tire at the least opportune moments.”

Like this website stated you feel like the Gods of Luck are damning your every step, but in a weird serendipitous way it’s more a crude reminder of all that you need to do and accomplish to avoid flat tires and to get to your destination faster. It’s a process but on the rollercoaster of life the bittersweet moments are the ones that make you appreciate the things you often underestimate or look over. Moral of today’s post is to schedule your check-up, remember the tools you have available to you to help exploit your resources and to get from Point A to Point B content with your journey and the gas you wasted along the way.

I hate being dependent on people, but I also hate being on the road alone changing a flat tire. I appreciate the harsh reminder of promises I made to myself on my road to Success with my own place and my Acura/Infiniti/Audi but with a room full of loved ones. I guess you just have to take the good with the bad, and roll with the punches/flat tire.

Flat and our of air(just for a little bit :o/),

OOOO (Hugs No Kisses),

The InExperienced Expert